Passing Along Family Values
1. Develop a Healthy Relationship With Your Kids
Having a positive and healthy relationship is imperative to bonding and communication which helps form habits which you’d want to inculcate in your future generations. A relationship of mutual trust and respect is vital for passing the family values to the next generations and ensure they’d remain intact and only grow in times to come. Children who are emotionally connected to their parents tend to find it easier to follow the family values and accept them without unnecessary rebellion.
2. Practice What You Preach
If you’re trying to impose positive habit in your child such as cleaning their mess after playtime, make sure you make your bed and clean up after yourself too. They’d definitely question you first and foremost if they don’t see you doing what you want them to do. Also, there would be times when things won’t be easily relatable, show them by doing actions, by respecting, greeting people, taking care of one another, accepting differences in opinions etc. This is a key attribute on passing along family values.
3. Your Child is a Whole New World
He/she has a unique set of exposure and outlook towards life and learning experiences, respect that. It is important to pass on the family values to generations of future, but not at the cost of their distinctive personalities. Learn their nature and communicate with them in the same manner, everyone does not understand every concept in the same manner. Show that you care about their interests and preferences, this would help them understand the beliefs and values you’re trying to teach them.
4. Give the Chances To Practice The Learned Values
Give them enough freedom and support them by providing chances to reinforce the values you have taught them. If there are certain chores that could be handled by them, let them manage it on their own. If being honest is what’s of prime importance, give them the chance, to be honest, and proud of it. Reflect on the experiences to talk about how well they did and what areas need improvement.
5. Mistakes Are Not A Dead End
What’s important is the lesson learnt and meaning grasped from the understanding, which comes along a mistake. Correction is needed where due but if a child makes a mistake in following the values you’ve been trying to teach him diligently, try to make him realize in a subtle manner where he went wrong and give an array of corrective options. After all, you’re teaching a lot of wisdom, and it takes time to give it time for learning and adjustments. Also, don’t jeopardize your relationship with your child over trivial matters.
6. The Guidance and Support Has to be Unconditional
As children and young adults, they may fail to fully understand some values and why are they supposed to follow them. Also, they may lose focus and not understand the best possible way to apply them in their daily course of life. The guidance and support have to be present at all times without fail –This shows your concern about them learning the values and also gives them encouragement that they have a structure to follow and are not left alone with a set of instructions in hand.
A lot is understood by effective communication that is open towards new ideas and explicitly discusses why there is a need to pass on the important family values. Also sharing experiences of both the parents help children develop a better understanding of all that they’re supposed to learn.
Hopefully, the above times and key attribute on passing along family values will help your family evolve to a much better place.